Myths about Virginity
Myth #1. First sexual intercourse occurs at 14 – 15 years old
In fact, at this age teenagers only talk about sex. Boys love to tell porkies to show their manhood. Average age when people start sexual life is 17,4. First sexual intercourse directly depends on well-being in family, mentality and education level. The more higher are those indices, the later occurs virginity loss.
Myth #2. Vaginal membrane in a woman thickens with age, therefore the later occurs virginity loss, the more painful the process is
Each female has individual anatomical organization of vaginal membrane, its size and thickness are different in each woman. Certainly, it has nothing to do with age. If vaginal membrane is elastic at 18 years old, it would be the same at 28.
Myth #3. In a woman early sexual debut is harmful
First of all, vaginal membrane is a barrier to infections for the period until is not formed protecting flora (by 17 – 18 years old). Up to this age vagina has a very subtle epithelium which easily gets traumatized during sex which may lead to inflammations and even infertility in a woman.
Myth #4. In a woman late sexual debut is harmful
In older times doctors considered that migraines and acne are a result of long-standing virginity. Perhaps, they are resulted from hormonal problems but have nothing to do with vaginal membrane existence. Often those disorders have psychosomatic character.
Myth #5. Defloration is a very painful process
Certainly, everything happens, even banal physical incompatibility. Normally, when woman is aroused enough, there may be no blood and pain at all due to natural lubricant produced by vagina.
Myth #6. First female partner should be older and more experienced male
It is desirable but not essential. Experienced partner knows how to bring a woman to highest degree of arousal which would surely ease the penetration. It is connected with experience and not with age.
Myth #7. It is better to lose virginity in bath
Warm water easily relaxes muscles, prevents spasms and reduces pain. But unfortunately, water washes away natural lubricans in a woman and a man. Chlorinated water also prevents gentle penetration.
Myth #8. Using condom makes first sex painful
Modern condoms are covered with special lubricant which helps to ease sliding. The ideal variant is when you add natural and personal lubricants, which would provide more gentle and painless penetration.
Losing Virginity Without Pain
Virginal membrane is a very subtle barrier covering female vaginal opening. While vaginal membrane breaking, pain is not strong. Woman experiences unpleasant sensations because her vagina is not stretched yet and is too narrow, and also her muscles may be too strained because of agitation.
Blood loss usually is symbolic, and some women even may not have it at all. Next sexual intercourse must be performed in 3 – 5 days to let burst of membrane heal. It is a normal thing when woman has not lost virginity during her first sexual intercourse, so do not get upset. Lots of women experience their first sexual intercourse without blood. What problems may appear while losing virginity and what are the solutions for them?
1) Vagina muscles block penis entering. This rare condition is called vaginismus and in the world from it do suffer just 3 – 4% of women. In case it is a real vaginismus (tightness of the vaginal muscles during attempted intercourse) it is necessary to visit sexologist. However, if it is impossible to go to the specialist, woman can gradually widen her vagina by inserting well-lubricated finger or artificial penis into it.
Additionally, making first sex with beloved man rises chances for successful virginity loss when she is confident that her partner strives for your common happiness, as a result she responds positively (even on the subconscious level) on his actions. The latest thing is best solution for this difficult problem.
2) Strong pain when penis enters vagina. The cause of it may be thick or hardly tensible vaginal membrane and, perhaps, male would have several attempts of defloration before vaginal membrane breaks. If defloration not occurs after 10 – 12 regular attempts within one month, then there is need to go to gynecologist who would perform defloration surgically under local anesthesia.
If woman had not felt any unpleasant sensations, then it means she had elastic membrane which has stretched without any discomfort, Sometimes intensive physical activity, deep washing and usage of tampons with unsuitable size help to stretching vaginal membrane.
3) Painful intercourse. Pain occurs because vagina walls get stretched and this pain itself is not strong, it just causes discomfort. If woman is not relaxed, then occurs spasmodic muscle contraction of vagina walls and intercourse becomes painful. It means woman is highly sensitive and in future she would feel great pleasure from sexual intercourse. Here may help plenty of extra lubricant and control over genital muscles – woman must strain her abdomen to withdraw spasm from vaginal muscles.
Mutual understanding and patience are most important things when partners do renovate sexual comfort with the help of control over vaginal muscles. As a result, you will easily overstep barrier called “spasm of muscles” and forget about unpleasant sensations, so in future you will enjoy happy sexual life! After some time you would recall these moments with a smile.
You should not feel frustration if woman not experienced orgasm. Only few women feel orgasm in their first sexual intercourse, sometimes they feel it rarely in their regular sexual life. Most women need months and even years to learn to have orgasm because it occurs in them not automatically like in males.
Better Positions For First Time Sex. Tips For Men
You have met a virgin woman, You date with her and you love each other. Your love leads both of you to sexual intercourse that will be first sexual experience for her. You should do everything correctly to make her first sex more memorable. This article will surely help you in that! Learn how to make correctly sex with a virgin woman.
1. You should choose a private place where no one will disturb you and you will fell comfortable. You must have enough time and not to hurry.
2. Romantic setting: a glass of wine for her, candles in the room, rose petals on the bed and relaxing music.
3. Be sure to use condom and water-based lubricant.
4. To make your woman feel less fear you should start with foreplay. Make her relaxing massage – massage her back, tights and legs. Kiss tenderly and slowly her erogenic zones: lips, ears, neck, breast, belly. Touch slightly area around her anus, clitoris, labia minora (inner labia), pubis. Kiss them. Watch her reactions and ask her what she likes. You should arouse her. If she feels so great fear that she cannot get relaxed then say “everything is all right, we will do it the next time”. Show her that you do not use her body for just your pleasure. Do not hurry to penetrate. Spend more time for foreplay and do it with love. Show her more love and care. Show her your true love.
Best way to deflower a virgin woman
Enter her vagina with a powerful but gentle movement. It shouldn’t be too slow or too prompt. After you penetrated vagina, do not start frictions! Wait for 1 – 2 minutes while she gets used to your penis size, continue with kisses and touching. Then start tenderly slow frictions.
Better positions for first time sex
Sex positions for defloration is an important question. What position to choose depends on her relaxedness, your bodies flexibility and penis size.
1. Sex position “Jockey”
Woman lies on her belly, spreading her legs with a pillow below her tights. Male sits on her tights and enters her vagina. What are benefits of this sex position? The woman lies on the bed in a relaxed position, there is no need for her to stretch leg muscles, as a result vagina entering is not strained which makes penis easy to penetrate.
2. Sex position “Sideways”
Woman lies on her side with her legs closed to her chest. Male in kneeling position enters her vagina. Woman should a little stretch her upper leg. What are benefits of this sex position? You see each other. In this position female body is relaxed because there is no need for her to stretch leg muscles, and this makes penis easy to penetrate.
Psychologically, this sex position is best one for virgin woman because it allows her see partner’s eyes. This position allows male to kiss her face, ears, neck which helps her get more relaxed. High pillow below her tights helps to make penetration more comfortable and straight.
